Question #2

Well this is more of a couple of questions that basically pertain to the same thing.

Shouldn't husbands be able to have guy time with their male friends? Should they only be hanging with single friends?

I personally think that husbands should have guy time, but I don't think that they should spend that time with only single guy friends. I think that being with single guy friends will only tempt them to want to do exactly what the single man does and that is chance women.

High Maintenance

Definition of High Maintenance:::

A person who has expensive taste (re. clothing, restaurants, etc.). This person is never comfortable because he/she is constantly concerned about his/her appearance. This person feels they are better than most people and usually judge others based on outward appearances. Most women are high maintenance. The term "high maintenance" usually refers to a very peculiar female individual that is extremely selfish and demands a constant stream of gifts and attention. Also prone to bitch and complain about your every action, thinks highly of herself, and will never issue an apology...unless she desperately wants something from you.

I don't consider myself to be high maintenance, but a few people that don't know anything about me think that I am. Hmm. That's good to know.

Here are a few examples/reasons why these people consider me to be high maintenance:
I would rather wear clothes that are appropriate than look like a tramp off the streets.
I would rather stay in a nice clean house (not a mansion), but something simple like a 2 or 3 bedroom house. Instead of some little piece of garbage.
I would rather wear my real hair than to add extra and all these bright ghetto colors to match my outfits.
I would rather stay to myself than to be loud and all in people face.

Like I said I'm not high maintenance. I just prefer better things than you. Good luck with your sucky life.

xoxo, Nitra

He's Home

ALL SMILES!!!

BLOG VIEW

Guess what everyone...

Someone is trying to keep up with every little thing I do just to see if I'm going to do something wrong. Hmm...wonder who it could be... Hi Snitch. Stalker. Nosey *******.... !!! Hope you find something interesting. I'll give you something to tell if that's what u want. & laugh at him and you once u tell him.

Well anyways he got a bit disturbed by the mama's boy post, but he was okay. I don't know if it hit him or not. It didn't seem like it. We will see. I'll keep ya posted. lol

Hopefully my blogs keep u interested.

Simply Irresistible! lol smiley face :-)

He's Coming Home...

We found out the great news yesterday that he will be coming home sometime next week. I can't give a specific day, but he will be here soon. Now it's back to planning this wedding. He wants to have the wedding on the 23rd of this month. He had a couple of his battle buddies, but now that they are at their duty stations they are unable to make it. So now he has to take his money  and help some of his friends buy their tuxedos just to make this wedding perfect. I can't believe it. We are in a need of a location to have the wedding. The location where the wedding was suppose to be at first is now booked. I truly hate that but I have to just keep looking.

My friends and cousins gave me a couple of good options, but my fiance wants to have the wedding at his church which is making it hard to find a good place to have the reception. I don't want to have to travel to another city to have the reception.

We are taking the cheapest route. I hate that. I have always dreamed of my wedding being extremely nice. Not sucky and cheap looking, but I have to take what I can get. Put on a smile and keep it moving I guess.

I'll keep ya'll posted.

Question #1

I've Got A Problem For Your Solution

Hi ladies,

This is a question for the girlfriends, fiancee, and/or wives. Mostly the wives.

Well every since I was a little girl I always heard that the wife comes before the mom. The wife get the first choice in everything. Correct? Is that not true or something because my fiance is talking about passing along his G.I. Bill to his mother, brother, or niece. I wasn't even mention. He just skipped me completely. Oh, then little brother is moving in with us when we move to Texas. haha now that one was funny.

Is that the proper way to do it or not. I know I will be new to the whole marriage thing but I'm not stupid. Well we haven't went to marriage counseling yet so I'm guessing we will learn all this stuff then.

Ladies your comments are more than welcome to this blog post.

Here is a link and a little bit of things that stuck out to me in this article. Enjoy :)

What To Do If You're Married to a Mama's Boy

Your husband’s strong relationship with his mom and family might have won you over when you were dating. But now you realize that you might be married to a mama’s boy – and it could destroy your relationship. Between your mama’s boy husband, who turns to his mother for everything and displays signs of immaturity, and your mother-in-law, who is keen on remaining the number one woman in her son’s life, you’re about ready to tear out your hair. But before you kick your mama’s boy husband and mother-in-law to the curb, you might try understanding their relationship and showing your husband that you should now be his number one priority.

The first step is determining if you really have a mama’s boy on your hands. Here are some of the signs that your husband is a full-fledged mama’s boy:

• His mom’s wish is his command. If his mother wants him to run an errand, take her to the doctor, eat with her, etc., he always obliges no matter what you would like to do.
• He wants daily contact or nearly daily contact with his mom either via phone or in person.
• He always chooses his mom over his wife and children, if he has them.
• He never moved far away from his mom, or he still lives with her (and now so do you).
• He has trouble making decisions without his mom, and might expect you to baby him.
• He might have financial ties to his mom, which keep him on a short leash with her.

Your relationship with your husband should not take center stage in your life. You should be your top priority. Get a little selfish. Work, get a hobby, and have interests and relationships with friends and family outside of the one with your husband. He must recognize that you’re independent, and you could leave if he continues to neglect you and ignore your needs, says Goldberg.

Ultimately, your husband will be the deciding factor in whether his attachment to his mom breaks your marriage. He might not notice it yet, but making you his main priority, growing up, and breaking away from his family of origin is good for him, too. “You can’t happily be both a husband and a mama’s boy because you’re always torn in two directions,” says Kirschner. If he accepts your limits and starts to put you first, then you can continue to work on developing your own family. If he doesn’t, you have to be willing to walk away because, say the experts, that is often when mama’s boys start to get their act together and straighten out.

Ladies don't forget to comment....(you do not to have a blog account to reply).

xoxo,



From Series (#1)

New Engagement/ Wedding Ring

He gave me the new rings at the airport when he arrived.

Wonderful Weekend

My babe came home for a 3 day 2 night weekend. I had a wonderful time. I wish he didn't have to go back.
I kinda felt like I took him away from his family members. I should have only been there for one day or something. Idk.

His little brother (19 yrs. old) really loves him. He respects him so much. He wants to be just like him. I am so proud of him. My fiance is a great role model. He is inspiring his little brother to go the Marines. He brag about how he really respects his brother and how he his so proud to have someone like him to make him push forward and make something of himself.

The reason for his leave was the death of his grandfather. The funeral was on Saturday. It was really sad. My sister and mom came to the family to support. He arrived on time that Friday morning. We went to the movies to see Hang Over 2, AppleBees to eat, and just spent some family time together.

Sorry I didn't take many pictures of this 3 day weekend. I don't know why. I really hate myself for not taking a lot of pictures.

At the Airport waiting for him to catch the plane. 6/26/11

Wedding Postponed

The wedding has been postponed. Luckily, everyone allowed me to changed the date without paying extra. I am so thankful that except one place which sucks. He feels horrible. I have to get on my job and tell people that the date is changed.

9 More Days...

...until the wedding.

&& I get some bad news. He may not be able to come home for the wedding. I don't know what to do. I have paid people. I have gave out so many invitations. I can't believe this. I am so upset. I don't know what to do or which way to turn. I don't know how I am going to tell all of these people. I don't even know how I am going to explain this to my family member. Each time they say something about the wedding my stomach drops because deep down I know different.

I hope God shows up and show out because we have put too much into this for something like this time happen.

#SPEECHLESS

The U.S. Army Ranks

Yellow, Turquoise, & Grey Oh My...

My Bridal Shower
Saturday, June 11, 2011 @ 2:00 PM

The sun was blinding me.

My bridal shower was held at the conference center. The building is really nice. Some people would think that the building wouldn't be nice because of where it is located. I guess that's why people say "You can't always judge a book by its cover". The bridal shower was hosted by my wonderful sister. She ran around none stop like a chicken with her head cut off to make sure that everything was nice for me. I truly appreciate all of her hard work. Thanks sister.

Well most of my guest were running a little late, but I didn't mind that as long as they came. I must admit that I didn't think anyone was going to show up. I got kind of worried. Half of the people I invited didn't come. I can't be angry or anything because there were so many different events that were going on that day. There were about 3 different weddings in my area, funeral (still born), and a 60th birthday dinner. Some of my guest had to work and some felt as if they didn't want to come because they couldn't give me a gift. I still had fun with the hand full of people that was there.

You know how at most showers (baby shower, bridal shower, or birthday party) how they play so many games and take forever to eat? Well at my shower we only played two games. Two Games??? Yes, only two. The two games that were played: Wedding Feud & Wedding "Tissue" Gown. They always wrote on some index cards words of encouragement/advice for me to look back on over the years.

turquoise, yellow, and grey bridal shower

The bridal shower menu was very simple. It wasn't extravagant. The punch was the talk of the shower. It was a hit. They loved the punch so much. I loved it also. I called it Nitra's Strawberry/Pineapple Punch. We added lemons for decoration. Only to give the punch a cute look.

Gifts: I loved all of my gifts. My girls bought me heels. They know me so well. I did get some items for our new home.




All and all the bridal shower was excellent. There were sad moments, happy moments, tears of joy. It was just so wonderful.

Strawberry/Pineapple Punch (delicious) Lemons make it pop.

Bridal Shower Cake, plates, and napkis

Bridal Shower Cake (turquoise and yellow)

The pictures on the wall were already up in the building.

My niece Nekita (turquoise) and my cousin Keionna (black) playing wedding feud.
About to shake hands but Nekita is cheating. 

Making their bridal gowns. =0

Coping with BCT/AIT

How did I cope with him being gone???

Where should I start? Hmm... How about the beginning. :)

Firstly, I didn't want him go into the service at all because of all the dangers. I was so worried and I still am. He took the ASVAB passed and I waited for him to let me know when he had to leave for MEPS and Basic Training. He went to MEPS twice, I think. One of the times they didn't have a job available that he wanted. Well let's fast foward...He told me his date and my heart dropped. It was only 2 weeks away. I didn't cry because I was so speechless. He cried because he wasn't prepared to leave that early. He assumed that he was going to leave in March or May. 

The Day Before He Left for Basic...
His mom had a going away dinner for him at their home. I was sad, but pretended to be happy until I found out something and I was angry. But I didn't let that get in the way of anything. Once most of the crowd started to slim down it all started to hit me. When everyone left us in the living room alone, I remember trying to find something on the TV to watch to keep my mind off of it, but it didn't help. I remember him holding me tight that hold day which was making it worse for me to hide/hold in my tears. He knows me so well. He know when I don't look at him that I'm crying and when he tries to comfort me I get worse. Well luckily one of his friends (who is very silly) needed a ride home. He kind of cheered me up with the jokes, but once he left and it got quiet tears filled up my eyes again. We came back to the house and sat in the car for nearly 15 to 30 minutes.

Once we got back in the house we were alone again. That is when I broke down and just let it all out. I cried like a little child who just got a whooping (you know when you get a whooping and your trying to hold the tears or trying to stop crying and you make that gaspy noise and start to twitch. lol I can't explain it). He couldn't hold in any longer. He cried too. I don't know how we stopped, but we did. It was finally time for me to go home and when I gave him that last hug goodbye I was about to cry, but I caught myself and I had to rush him out the door.  (As I'm typing this I'm beginning to tear up a bit).

How did I cope with him being at basic combat training?
The first weeks I didn't know what I was going to do because I miss talking to him all day and night. It wasn't until the 3rd or 4th week when his mom gave me a bit of hope. She gave me the address to where they were and I quickly took out my laptop and began to type away. I had so many questions.

This semester in school I didn't as well as I hoped I would because my mind wasn't focused on my work. While at school I had some girls that I called my friends and they were great. They kept me laughing and one always checked to make sure that I was okay. As for his friends they didn't change and they were there for me. I don't know why I thought they would act differently because he wasn't around... I didn't fail in school I just got a C in one of my classes which I thought maybe I would have had a B in and I wanted a 3.8 this semester, but I didn't get it. It's okay though.

I wrote my first letter (typed), mailed it off, and waiting anxiously for him to write back. Other things I did was made YouTube videos, blogged, changed up my hair, and spend a lot of time with my family. My family is always there for me anyways. Without them I don't think I could have made it.

Throughout that process I sent 14 letters. My sis sent 2 and my mom sent one.

Almost time for me to see him...
As it got closer to  family day/graduation I got so anxious. I bought so many different outfits. On the way there I didn't move from that spot on the van. When I finally saw him it's like I was stuck in one spot. I couldn't move. He lost so much weight (he wasn't fat, just gained some weight from all the late night snacks/sleep). I was in tears. I was shocked because I didn't cry. I just couldn't wait until everybody was out of the way. It was such a joyous occassion for all of us. I didn't want it to be over. He was so happy to see me. lol. I forgot to mention that he proposed to me. lol (So yea I had 2 months to plan a wedding at a very low budget of $1500)

The day he had to leave for AIT...
We were loading up to prepare to go see him off and as soon as we got on the base he sent me a text message and said that we couldn't see him. I was so hurt. It seemed as if I was the only one that was sad/angry. I really wanted to get that last hug before he left again. I remember trying to hold in the tears. Luckily, everyone near me was restless and sleepy. I let out a few tears and pulled out a Kleenex and quickly wiped them away. I had to think happy thoughts to stop me from crying.

While at AIT...
It is much better because I got to talk to him every single day. The only hard thing about this is thinking some lil girl is going to try to push up on him. Other than that it's cool. It's relaxed.

Well it's almost time for him to come back home. I'm so ready.

If ya'll have any questions please let me know because I am stuck and I am lost for words.

My fiance

I am counting down the days until he return home. No, he is not overseas...He is away at AIT. He will be home soon and I can't wait until he is back.

My Intro

Hi Army Wives,

I started this blog to tell my thoughts, share my feelings, & other randomness as a Army Wife. This blog will not be the normal boring old Army Wife blog. It will be a bunch of different things throughout this blog being posted by me. Of course, I will let you know some of the secrets of this crazy life, but it want be any of the Army secrets. Only the wives secrets. Hopefully, I will have lots of juicy gossip to share with you all once this life for me begins. Don't get me wrong I want be telling nothing to cause a marriage to end. It will mostly concern me.

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