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This is a question for the girlfriends, fiancee, and/or wives. Mostly the wives.
Well every since I was a little girl I always heard that the wife comes before the mom. The wife get the first choice in everything. Correct? Is that not true or something because my fiance is talking about passing along his G.I. Bill to his mother, brother, or niece. I wasn't even mention. He just skipped me completely. Oh, then little brother is moving in with us when we move to Texas. haha now that one was funny.
Is that the proper way to do it or not. I know I will be new to the whole marriage thing but I'm not stupid. Well we haven't went to marriage counseling yet so I'm guessing we will learn all this stuff then.
Ladies your comments are more than welcome to this blog post.
Here is a link and a little bit of things that stuck out to me in this article. Enjoy :)
Your husband’s strong relationship with his mom and family might have won you over when you were dating. But now you realize that you might be married to a mama’s boy – and it could destroy your relationship. Between your mama’s boy husband, who turns to his mother for everything and displays signs of immaturity, and your mother-in-law, who is keen on remaining the number one woman in her son’s life, you’re about ready to tear out your hair. But before you kick your mama’s boy husband and mother-in-law to the curb, you might try understanding their relationship and showing your husband that you should now be his number one priority.
The first step is determining if you really have a mama’s boy on your hands. Here are some of the signs that your husband is a full-fledged mama’s boy:
- His mom’s wish is his command. If his mother wants him to run an errand, take her to the doctor, eat with her, etc., he always obliges no matter what you would like to do.
- He wants daily contact or nearly daily contact with his mom either via phone or in person.
- He always chooses his mom over his wife and children, if he has them.
- He never moved far away from his mom, or he still lives with her (and now so do you).
- He has trouble making decisions without his mom, and might expect you to baby him.
- He might have financial ties to his mom, which keep him on a short leash with her.
Your relationship with your husband should not take center stage in your life. You should be your top priority. Get a little selfish. Work, get a hobby, and have interests and relationships with friends and family outside of the one with your husband. He must recognize that you’re independent, and you could leave if he continues to neglect you and ignore your needs, says Goldberg.
Ultimately, your husband will be the deciding factor in whether his attachment to his mom breaks your marriage. He might not notice it yet, but making you his main priority, growing up, and breaking away from his family of origin is good for him, too. “You can’t happily be both a husband and a mama’s boy because you’re always torn in two directions,” says Kirschner. If he accepts your limits and starts to put you first, then you can continue to work on developing your own family. If he doesn’t, you have to be willing to walk away because, say the experts, that is often when mama’s boys start to get their act together and straighten out.
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